Are you a real man? Do you know someone who is a ‘real’ man?
1. Are
they chivalrous and respectful? That’s pretty ‘manly.’
OR
2. Are
they disrespectful to women and constantly put them down? That seems to be
pretty ‘manly’ these days too.
Herein lies our paradox.
Jackson Katz’ book, The Macho
Paradox, profoundly challenges the definition of manhood. Are men real men when
violence against women is involved physically and verbally? Are men programmed
to be violent or are people naturally violent?
Society and culture are
highlighted repeatedly in this book. Concepts of gender and power are major
features, as men fearing women constantly slam women to defend their
‘masculinity.’ Are men brought up this way, passed down by enculturation? Has
violence against women accelerated along with the technology that allows access
to the 10,000 porn videos released in the U.S.A every year? This pattern has
led people to evaluate continuity and change that come with gender violence and
how societies can prevent it.
From Eminem to high school sex
scandals, this type of violence concerns every individual and influences them
to make decisions. This is not a ‘women’s issue’, it is something that men play
a role in too and it should be acknowledged. True manhood most certainly
shouldn’t involve harming of another human being. Jackson Katz’ discusses
hundreds of factors more on this topic from personal experiences to
quantitative data. He also acknowledges the book called the ‘Cinderella
complex’, where it claims that very independent women still desire to be
protected by a male. The gender stereotypes are overwhelming and cease to end!
The Macho Paradox proves to be as complex and puzzling as society and culture
itself.
See the powerpoint accompanying this here.